Life,
You work in funny ways. Let me explain:
Almost a year and a half ago when I began to date Trent everyone that I used to associate myself around had a problem with it. Maybe it was because I began to drift away; which was purposely done, or because I just never spoke about it. I’ve made some stupid mistakes in my past with previous relationships. When it comes down to it you just have to hold your pride and never talk about the down time. People always get bad impressions and seem to engrave those poor assumptions in their brain. I admit, I’ve done it too, and I still do it. It’s all about how the person delivers their negative response. Back to what I was saying, I don’t really know what started the whole, “Lets talk smack about Erica, but never say it to her face” game started, but it was a hoot, and it didn’t really bother me. As I have always said the only thing I didn’t like was how people I had been friends with for so long couldn’t accept what was happening, nor could they approach me with the topic. I began to realize that the changes that were being made in my life were a positive change. I was tired of the drinking and smoking fest. Tired of that being the solution to every problem of a boring city, and honestly, tired of the same faces. I never disliked the friendships that I had with these people, but I just wanted out of the same faces I had seen literally since kindergarten.
After Keaton died I had a big life change with myself. My paranoia became more severe. When I met Trent things relaxed. I changed to a different store for work, met new people, and genuinely enjoyed the way I felt.
My whole point is not about meeting Trent. I think back to what things would have been if I stayed where I was at. My boyfriend had passed away, his best friend got in trouble for distributing alcohol to a minor, a side friend went to rehab for drugs, more friends became sellers, and lastly, a once-close friend is arrested for robbery in the first degree. I could have been one of those people calling everyone during that time going, “OMG ARE YOU SURPRISED? OMG CAN YOU BELIEVE IT?” Looking at it from this perspective, I CAN believe it. If you don’t get yourself out of the downward cycle, you will be apart of it. Whether you’re the problem or you’re associated with the problem.
So to those who read this: No, I don’t hang out with those people and no I don’t do their drugs, and no, I’m not worried that the cops are going to call me, because I have chosen to get myself out of a bad situation and get above it.
For every insult I have ever gotten, and for all the times I felt like crying I’m glad I didn’t waste my time getting my panties in a bunch over it. It was all completely worth it and I would never, ever, say I wish I could change something.
Fate has happened to my advantage by my own choices I have made from the influences that changed me.